Step Nine: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when so do so would injure them or others.
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| "The tremendous fact for every one of us is that we have discovered a common solution. We have a way out on which we can absolutely agree, and upon which we can join in brotherly and harmonious action." |
My grievances show me what is not there, and hide from me what I would see. Recognizing this, what do I want my grievances for? They keep me in darkness and hide the light. 
The cleansing is always individual through the forgiveness or the recognition that you are as God created you. And there is, literally, no reciprocity involved in it. 
We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. 
By taking responsibility for my actions and being willing to clean up my past, I can experience the release from guilt. I also release those associations I have held in judgment and blame.