Step Nine: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when so do so would injure them or others.
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| “This man recounts that he tumbled out of bed to his knees. In a few seconds he was overwhelmed by a conviction of the Presence of God. It poured over and through him with the certainty and majesty of a great tide at flood. The barriers he had built through the years were swept away. He stood in the Presence of Infinite Power and Love.” |
My grievances show me what is not there, and hide from me what I would see. Recognizing this, what do I want my grievances for? They keep me in darkness and hide the light. 
The cleansing is always individual through the forgiveness or the recognition that you are as God created you. And there is, literally, no reciprocity involved in it. 
We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. 
By taking responsibility for my actions and being willing to clean up my past, I can experience the release from guilt. I also release those associations I have held in judgment and blame.