The cleansing is always individual through the forgiveness or the recognition that you are as God created you. And there is, literally, no reciprocity involved in it.  

Making restitution for the wrongs we have done is often very difficult. It hurts our pride. But the rewards are great. When we go to a person and say we are sorry, the reaction we get is almost invariably good.

It takes courage to make the plunge, but the results more than justify it. A load is off your chest and often an enemy has been turned into a friend.
-24 hour a day book

Above all, we should be absolutely sure that we are not delaying because we are afraid. For the readiness to take the full consequences of our past acts, and to take responsibility for the well being of others at the same time, is the very spirit of Step Nine.
-The Twelve Steps and the Twelve Traditions

The result of the amend that you are willing to make has nothing at all to do with the amend itself. The purgation that occurs at your capacity to confess or ask for forgiveness is the necessity. In truth, whether your amend is accepted or rejected matters not. Many of you are very fearful of the result you're going to get by asking for total forgiveness. In the Course, Jesus teaches this: that the ego is going to be affronted by you, it is not going to forgive you in that association, and you are looking for a limited result of the purgation of your own mind, that is, a necessity for you to justify the forgiveness in the first place. And to the direct extent you look for a quid pro quo or an exchange of the mutualness of your guilt, you will not do a satisfactory step. The cleansing is always individual through the forgiveness or the recognition that you are as God created you. And there is, literally, no reciprocity involved in it. I know to some of you that may seem selfish because you're going to continue to demand a necessity to justify the evil that you think you did in order that you can continue to share it. That is not what this says and it's not finally what you must do. Remember, you must be and are always only perfect as God created you.

 -The 12 Step Program and A Course in Miracles booklet

Good judgment, a careful sense of timing, courage and prudence—these are the qualities we shall need when we take Step Nine.

After we have made the list of people we have harmed, have reflected carefully upon each instance, and have tried to possess ourselves of the right attitude in which to proceed, we will see that the making of direct amends divides those we should approach into several classes. There will be those who ought to be dealt with just as soon as we become reasonably confident that we can maintain our sobriety. There will be those to whom we can make only partial restitution, lest complete disclosures do them or others more harm than good. There will be other cases where action ought to be deferred, and still others in which by the very nature of the situation we shall never be able to make direct personal contact at all.
-The Twelve Steps and the Twelve Traditions

After taking this preliminary trial at making amends, we may enjoy such a sense of relief that we conclude our task is finished. We will want to rest on our laurels. The temptation to skip the more humiliating and dreaded meetings that still remain may be great. We will often manufacture plausible excuses for dodging these issues entirely. Or we may just procrastinate, telling ourselves the time is not yet, when in reality, we have already passed up many a fine chance to right a serious wrong. Let's not talk prudence while practicing evasion.
-The Twelve Steps and the Twelve Traditions